This link provided below to another article from another blogger titled Please Don't Help My Kids is exactly how I feel with Bowen. We are raising Bowen just as we are raising our other boys, we are not setting preconceived limitations on him because he has limb differences. We truly believe he can do anything any other child can do, just in his own way! So often people want to coddle him and help him with even the smallest of things. That does not help him at all. He needs to learn how to be independent. He needs to learn that sometimes, we may not accomplish something on our first try but to get up and keep trying until we do. He needs to learn that even though he has limb differences, he is just like everyone else! Bowen is very good at trying to manipulate people into thinking he can't do things, so they will do it for him. A lot of that is probably learned behavior from his first 18 months of life spent in an orphanage. So he needs to be pushed to do things. He needs to hear that he can. He needs to learn to try even when he doesn't want to. And you should see his face light up with joy when he does something that just seconds before he was telling us he couldn't do! It is priceless! There is no "I can't" in our house. When we hear this, we simply say "Yes you can." And he can... just give him a chance!